By now you have read about my struggles with Anxiety and Depression. I’ll link them here if you wanted to catch up.
Today I wanted to talk to you a little bit about therapy options. I do have a little issue with it. Not in the sense that I go and you should too if needed, but I hate the stigma around going. Some people still to this day think its a sign of weakness or shameful and something that should not be talked about. People that say suck it up and it’s not needed. What i am happy with is the push to talk about it openly and that mental health and selfcare is starting to be put first in peoples lives.
I’ll be the first to admit that I’ll never be the poster child for therapy. I have made first appointments and then cancelled. I have gone to therapist’s one time and after spilling my guts never gone back. I have called crisis 800 numbers but hung up before someone answered. I’m done some of the bigger online therapy apps. Texting someone all my biggest issues seemed less scary at first. I can honestly say I’ve done it all.
The most important thing is to try. Finding the right therapist is key and now with so many different platforms and groups you can totally find the right fit for you.
Let me break down a couple different options for you
In Person Therapy
Sometimes it’s easy easier to talk to someone in person. This is my preferred way. It’s seems more like a conversation and for me a bit easier to get my thoughts out. The main thing is for you to be comfortable in that setting and finding the right one you can open up to. I can tell you I’ve gone through a few that I knew right away it wasn’t going to be a good fit. Just whatever you do don’t feel like you have to stick with them if your not comfortable. They go through it a lot so no need to feel obligated. Check with your health insurance provider first to see what is covered. If you need to find one in your network you can easily search on your plan’s website to find locals near you. Another option is to use the site goodtherapy.org. You can put in your zip code and it will pull up everyone by you. You can also get specific on what type of therapist you would like from family, relationships, anxiety and depression. Do some digging and try and match the best you can and if it doesn’t work out on to the next one.
Two of the bigger companies out there are Talkspace and Betterhelp. These online platforms are great for people who get really nervous or are new to therapy. You can send text messages, live chat, video chat or call. It’s a great way to test the waters and see how you feel. While normally in person visits could cost $150-$200 per session online can cost you that per month so it’s a great way to get the help you need if you are on a budget. Both companies have top notch theripists and are backed by many organizations in the health care field. play around on both websites and see what you think about it. This is also a great option for if you have a hard time taking off work for appointments. Texting throughout the day might we way easier for you.
This one took me a bit to come around too but I actually like it the most now. Something about sitting in a group with people that are going through the same type of struggle you are is somewhat soothing. I’ll fill you in on my backstory in another post but I have going to a domestic violence group for a while now. It’s one thing to have close friends say they understand but these women REALLY understand. You never have to sugarcoat what happened because they lived it too. I found myself watering down what happened when I had to tell my friend for the first time. It was completely weird the first time and it’s EXACTLY like what you see on TV. Hi! My name is Amy and I …Blah Blah blah. But it really has been the best experience. And best of all it is FREE!!!!
Those are kind of the big 3. all very good and all with different price points. I did want to touch on how to pay for therapy if you are having a tough time will the price tag.
When I was free of my abuser I had nothing left to my name. Like 20 dollars at that’s it. But there are things you can do. I just mentioned the group therapy option. These can be run by non profit groups or churches. I found mine through a domestic violence shelter. Google can be your friend to try and find one.
The other option is if you find an in person therapist you like ask them if they can work on a sliding scale. They of course need to be paid for the help they offer but some really do understand the need for therapy and the struggle it can be to pay for it and they can work with you. I think my very first therapist was right out of college and I was living off of Ramen. I paid this saint of a woman 50 bucks each time.
If you are a student check with your student health center. they may offer free or discounted resources. Just don’t be afraid to ask for help. That’s what they are there for.
The last option could be to check out a few of the federally funded health centers in your area. They also can offer free or low cost mental health options.
If you are overwhelmed and are having a rough patch and just need someone RIGHT NOW..please utilize the 1-800 numbers. They are crisis lines and they are trained to get you the help you need ASAP.
Here are a few I have used in the past and are fantastic.
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
Nacional de Prevención del Suicidio
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (Options for Deaf and Hard of Hearing)
For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 1-800-273-8255
Crisis Text Line
Text HOME to 741741
National Domestic Violence Hotline
National Grad Crisis Line
National Sexual Assault Hotline
Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline
CDC National HIV and AIDS Hotline
If you need help please reach out to any one of these options…Hell reach out to me if you need to. Just remember you are never alone.